Children

Child development

For concerns about speech, social skills and parenting

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In Japanese,
with a medical interpreter
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About

About Child development

You can consult us in Japanese about your child's language and social development and any parenting concerns. We're here to support you with the worries of raising children abroad.

Why it happens

Children's development varies widely, and every child grows in language, movement and social skills at their own pace. Developmental differences aren't a result of the child's effort or parenting; they are thought to come from the individual way each brain processes information from birth. Abroad, children also have to adapt to multiple languages and education styles that differ from Japan's, which can make it harder to tell a developmental delay from a temporary effect of the environment.

What's happening in the body

Development is a process that builds up step by step. Motor development (holding up the head, sitting, walking) and language development (making sounds, saying meaningful words, forming sentences) each progress in stages. But the pace varies greatly between children. It's natural for children of the same age in months to be able to do different things. When assessing development, we don't just look at what a child can do at a certain age; we look at whether they are progressing through the stages in their own way and how balanced the different areas are. In a multilingual environment, time spent with each language is divided, so vocabulary in one language may look smaller than that of a child who speaks only one language. In this case, the languages need to be assessed together. When something concerns you, we think together about whether it's within normal variation or whether support would help.

Main symptoms

  • Not talking, vocabulary not growing, or not yet using two-word phrases
  • Little response when called, or difficulty making eye contact
  • Little interaction with children of the same age, or difficulty with group activities
  • Strong fixation on particular things, difficulty switching activities
  • Restless, unable to sit still
  • Over- or under-sensitive to sound, light or touch
  • Not wanting to go to nursery or school, or difficulties at school
  • Severe tantrums or difficulty moving on from strong emotions

When you can wait and see

What you can do yourself

  • Focus on and note what your child can do rather than what they can't
  • Keep instructions short and specific, and add visual cues
  • Keep a regular daily routine
  • Make sure you, as a parent, get rest and have someone to talk to
  • Share information with the nursery or school, and don't carry it all yourself

Please consult us

If any of the following apply

  • You're concerned about delayed speech or development
  • You're worried about how your child is doing in group settings
  • You want to talk to someone about parenting

Seek care right away

If any of the following apply

  • Losing words or skills your child could do before
  • Repeated seizures
  • Repeatedly hurting themselves or others
  • Not eating or sleeping, and not gaining weight or losing weight

Don't wait for a Cotovia consultation; call the emergency number in your country.

See the emergency guide for each country

If you're not sure, ask us on LINE

Differential

Telling it apart from similar conditions

Symptoms that look the same may need different care depending on the cause. Use this as a guide to find what's closest to your situation.

Within normal variation

Clues

Progressing slowly but steadily through the stages, with other areas appropriate for age

Care

We watch how things develop and suggest ways to interact with your child

Effects of a multilingual environment

Clues

Looks limited in one language but is appropriate for age when languages are combined

Care

The languages need to be assessed together

Hearing problems

Clues

Little response when called, and not startled by loud noises

Care

A hearing assessment is recommended. Repeated middle ear infections may be behind it

Developmental differences

Clues

Difficulty making eye contact, strong fixations or sensory sensitivities

Care

Understanding and support from an early stage make life easier later on

A reaction to a change in environment

Clues

Temporarily losing skills after a move or starting nursery

Care

It usually settles as the child gets used to the environment

Motor delay

Clues

Clearly late in motor milestones such as holding up the head, rolling over or walking

Care

A physical assessment is recommended

* This is not a complete list. If you're not sure, please consult us.

Course

Typical course

This is the general course. Actual progress varies from person to person.

  1. When you first become concerned

    You're often told to wait and see at this stage

    Writing down what concerned you and when helps when you consult us

  2. Consultation and assessment

    We hear how things have developed and how your child is doing now

    It helps if you bring your Maternal and Child Health Handbook and any videos

  3. Monitoring period

    We check for changes over several months

    We take our time and follow your child's own pace

  4. If support is needed

    We refer you to specialist services as needed

    We go over both the support available locally and the options in Japan

Local Insight

For people living in Southeast Asia

The climate, healthcare and access to medication differ from Japan. Here are points specific to this region.

Abroad, there are fewer chances to notice concerns

In Japan

  • Checkup at 1 and a half years
  • Checkup at 3 years
  • Schools have advice services

Abroad

  • Public developmental checks aren't offered in the same way
  • Support in Japanese is hard to get at international and local schools
  • Only a few Japanese schools have special needs support in place
It's important to make a conscious effort to seek advice
01

Abroad, the public developmental checks available in Japan, such as the checkups at 1 and a half and 3 years old, often aren't offered in the same form, so concerns can be noticed later. It's important to make a conscious effort to seek advice.

02

International schools and local schools rarely offer support in Japanese, and only a small number of Japanese schools have systems in place for special needs support. It's reassuring to know your schooling options early.

03

In a multilingual environment, speech can develop more slowly for a while, but rather than assuming it's because your child is bilingual, it's best to assess development as a whole.

04

Procedures for school enrollment and support when returning to Japan differ by municipality, so it helps to start gathering information while you're still abroad.

Care

What Cotovia can do

  • A careful consultation in which we listen to you
  • Developmental assessment and advice
  • Referral to specialist services as needed

Tests you may have

Not knowing what will happen can make people hesitate to seek care, so here's what actually takes place.

Time to talk

Understanding how things have developed, how your child is doing now and how you interact at home

We allow more time than usual None

Developmental assessment

Checking each area, such as movement, language and social skills

About 30 minutes We check through play with your child

Hearing check

Checking whether a hearing problem is behind it

About 15 minutes You just listen to sounds and respond

Physical examination

Checking growth charts and physical health

A few minutes None

Treatment options

Ways of interacting

Working out what you can do at home

Rather than one-size-fits-all advice, we work out together what suits your child

Follow-up

Looking at changes over time

It's important not to decide on a single assessment but to watch progress through the stages

Referral to specialist services

Connects you with the support you need

We tell you about both the support available locally and the options in Japan

Support for families

Eases the burden on parents

Not carrying your worries alone is also an important part of your child's environment

* Tests, procedures and prescriptions are decided by the doctor after a consultation. Services may vary by country and location.

Preparation

Before your visit

When seeing a doctor abroad, simply organizing what you need to say makes a big difference.

What to bring

  • Passport or residence card
  • Insurance card and your insurer's contact details
  • Maternal and Child Health Handbook
  • Results of any checkups in Japan
  • Any videos showing what concerns you

What to tell us

  • Roughly when you became concerned and what concerns you
  • Which languages are used at home, and in what proportion
  • How your child is doing at nursery or school
  • Changes since you were in Japan
  • What your child has learned to do, and when

Self Care

What you can do yourself

Along with seeing a doctor, here are things to keep in mind in daily life.

Prevention

  • Have regular checkups and developmental checks (make a conscious effort, as there are fewer opportunities abroad)
  • Make sure your child has plenty of everyday interaction in both Japanese and the local language
  • Consulting early can give you more options
  • Make sure parents don't become isolated

How to Consult

How to be seen

Choose from 3 ways to be seen, depending on your symptoms and schedule. If you're not sure, we'll guide you on LINE.

Online consultations

See a doctor by video call from home or the office. Medication delivered or from a pharmacy.

Available for this symptom

In-person care

In-person consultations at our clinics and partner hospitals, including tests and procedures.

Available for this symptom

Cotovia Counter

Support with an interpreter for visits to general hospitals.

Available for this symptom

If an online consultation finds that tests or procedures are needed, we'll guide you to in-person care or Cotovia Counter.

From consultation to receiving medication

1

Add us on LINE and consult

Tell us your symptoms, and we'll recommend the right way to be seen.

2

Book and be seen

See a doctor online or at the nearest location, with an interpreter present.

3

Receive your medication

Have it delivered or pick it up at a pharmacy or the clinic (varies by country).

4

Follow-up

You can also consult us on LINE about how you're doing afterward.

Special Care

People who need extra care

Families planning to return to Japan

Organizing your records from abroad makes it easier to connect with support in Japan

Parents who are anxious about communicating with the nursery or school

We can also help you work out how to explain things

Parents and guardians

Your own tiredness and worries matter too. Please don't keep them to yourself; talk to us

Children with possible hearing problems

If a child has repeated middle ear infections, their hearing may affect language development

FAQ

FAQ

Common questions before a visit, and common assumptions that lead people to judge for themselves.

QCan I get advice on development while living abroad?
A

Yes. You can consult us in Japanese. We can also refer you to specialist services locally or in Japan as needed.

QIs my child's speech delayed because they hear both English and Japanese?
A

A multilingual environment can have an effect, but it may not explain everything. It's important to also check development in areas other than language.

QCan you give a diagnosis?
A

A definite diagnosis often requires a specialist assessment. We start by hearing how things have developed and refer you to a suitable service as needed.

QCan parents consult without the child?
A

Yes. Parents or guardians can consult on their own. We can start by going over how your child is doing and the difficulties you have at home.

Common misconceptions

Myth Speech delay is only natural in a multilingual environment

Fact The environment has an effect, but it may not explain everything. The languages need to be assessed together

Myth If you wait, your child will catch up eventually

Fact Many children do catch up, but when support helps, starting early gives you more options

Myth If you ask for advice, your child will be labeled as disabled

Fact A consultation is a chance to understand your child's situation. It doesn't assume there will be a diagnosis

Myth There's nowhere to get advice when you live abroad

Fact Consultations in Japanese are available, and we can go over options both locally and in Japan

Myth It's caused by the way the parents raised the child

Fact Developmental differences are not caused by parenting

Feel free to ask us on LINE first

It's fine to contact us even if you're not sure you need to see a doctor. We're available in Japanese 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

  • Symptoms
  • When it started
  • Your country of residence
  • How you'd like to be seen

Sending these 4 things helps us respond faster. It's fine if you don't have them all.

Ask us on LINE